Patterns of family education

Family education The ways in which mothers and fathers view upbringing vary

Each family adopts a special method for raising its children, and this depends on several factors, including the style of education that the parents received in their families, in addition to several environmental factors such as studies, life experiences, and others, and the style of education is known. It is a set of strategies used in raising children, as scholar Diane Baumrind classified parenting styles into four main sections

 . authoritarian, permissive, distant (negligent), moderate (assertive)

  .In this article, we will discuss the concept of each style and its impact on children

  Styles of family upbringing The following is information about the four main styles of family      upbringing

  Authoritarian education

  This type of educational method gives absolute authority to the parents, and parents who follow this type of education with their children are characterized by the following

Giving very little space for dialogue and discussion

  Always use severity with children

  Excessive use of various types of punishment

  Parents who follow this style are usually less affectionate with their children and do not express their feelings

  Expectations of a lot of achievement and completion from children, but a lack of flexibility. Lack of trust in children and not expecting them to achieve anything positive

  The effect of authoritarian education

  On children, the following are the effects of an authoritarian parenting style: Children who received this type of parenting believe that success and obedience are the only reason their parents love them, which in the future affects their relationships with others. Poor self-confidence. Some children raised in this style may display aggressive behavior outside the home, such as bullying and vandalism. They have difficulties in their social life due to a lack of social skills. They have difficulty controlling themselves, because in many cases they were not given authority and control when they were young. These children tend to obey and obey easily, which causes them to suffer from anxiety and depression. These children suffer from fear of others and are ashamed of them without justification

  Permissive upbringing

  Leniency in raising children is allowing them to do what they want, while providing a minimum of guidance, as parents who follow this approach to raising children seem to be closer to their children’s friends than to their parents

 This educational style is characterized by the following

Laws and regulations are almost non-existent, and there is no Parents modify or direct their children's behavior. Parents provide great affection and tenderness to their children. Parents and children do not abide by the laws, and if they exist, they are not enforced for a long time. They tend to leave the freedom to their children to solve their problems on their own

Parents provide a high degree of dialogue and communication to their children, but they leave the decisions to the children and do not give them any guidance. Parents' expectations of their children are low and almost non-existent. Parents do not use any means of punishment with their children, and there are few consequences if the children misbehave

  The effect of permissive upbringing on children is as follows

  Effects of a permissive parenting style: Low level of achievement and performance of tasks often. Children act violently and lack empathy for others. They often make bad decisions; Because there are no laws governing their behavior. Poor ability to manage time and control habits. Children who are raised in this manner are more vulnerable to academic, scientific and social failure, because they lack responsibility and self-discipline

Distracted parenting (neglect)

  The most important characteristics of this educational method

Parents do not have a clear approach to disciplining children. Parents rarely express their feelings to their children. Little dialogue between parents and children. Parents tend to not care about their children and stay away from them. Parents have no expectations towards their children

  The impact of distant upbringing on children is as follows

  The effects on the child due to this method

  Suffering from high levels of stress and anxiety. Emotional distancing from those around them due to not receiving the need for love and support. Total self-reliance, which sometimes leads them into some mistakes 

Weakness in academic, professional and social areas, and this may affect their marital relationships later. They have a fear of dependence on others, and they do not trust others easily. Their risk of becoming deviant increases because their parents do not care about them

  Moderate (firm) upbringing

  Also called the authoritative style, parents who follow this style are characterized by the following: They set rules and guidelines that their children are expected to follow. They are more democratic, responsive to their children and willing to listen to their questions. They provide warmth, love and adequate support to their children. When children fail to meet expectations, these parents are more nurturing and tolerant rather than punitive. They help their children to be socially responsible; Through confidence in their abilities to perform tasks

  The effect of moderate education on children is as follows

:  Implications of this parenting style

  Children take responsibility. They love others and sympathize with them appropriately

They are confident in themselves. They have sufficient support and encouragement for academic and professional achievement. They have a better chance of forming successful social relationships